For just a second, can we stop putting people who
self-harm in such a negative light? They are not “just doing it for the
attention”, or because they think it’s cool. They’re most likely suffering with
a mental illness. Being ill is never particularly cool.
Okay, so you don’t understand it and it makes you
uncomfortable. I have marks from self-harming and still get a slight shock when
I see someone else’s (though that may be a realisation that I am not alone,
which is important to remember if you self-harm). But the person you know is no
different now that they have wounds or scars on their body.
If someone was being abused by another person, would you
want them to hide the marks so that the rest of society didn't have to address
the issue? So we don’t have to deal with the uncomfortable realisation that not
everything in life is smooth sailing?
Of course you wouldn't. To ask someone who was a victim
of abuse to hide their past is barbaric. Self-harm is no different. We need to
help one another, make sure that the bully gets pushed far, far away, where
they can’t hurt the victim any more. It’s much harder when that bully is inside
the victim, rather than a physical, outside presence, but it’s still possible
if we care about one another.
If you see someone who self-harms, don’t berate them in
your mind, realise that they are still a person and would still be thrilled to
hear you ask “how’s your day going?” and if someone approaches you for help,
then point them in the right direction – a medical professional is the best way
to go. We’re not attention seeking. We’re just struggling to cope, we've all
had days where this is the case, so have some sympathy.
And if you self-harm, please think about whether you
would do the same thing to someone else. Would you harm a child? A stranger in
the street? No. So please try not to harm yourself. Grab a stress ball, rip up
some paper or smack the hell out of your pillow. The best advice I heard was to
have a hair bobble or elastic band around your wrist and flick it whenever you
feel the need to self-harm. It’s not the same, but it’s a damn-sight better
than hurting yourself. You may not care about your body but I do. Whoever you
are reading this, I can’t bear to think of you being hurt.
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